Dating a friend is widely recognized to be a pursuit fraught with potential complications. I learned this lesson the hard way when I started dating a friend in high school. Not only were we good friends, but our families were also extremely close and had been for years. When we broke up nine months later, all the usual post-breakup awkwardness and bitterness were multiplied tenfold by the fact that we were forced to hang out whenever our families got together, which was often.
The date went well — really well. You know that fluttery heart feeling? It flitted through my whole body. Future dates took shape in my mind: afternoons at the Guggenheim, picnics in the park with a bottle of white. Neither of us was looking to jump into something. Within a few weeks, things had taken a turn.
When it comes to the inside of the male psyche, however, I defer to Hussey. What a concept? Below, his quick and easy advice for how to meet your summer fling.
So how can we rewrite this narrative? To start, I asked women to tell me about a time they made the first move. Read their stories below, and then join me in reshaping what the pursuit of love, sex and romantic revelry can look like by telling me yours, too. Turns out I was the only one who messaged first and it really stood out to him.