I am a gay parent. This is not a confession, coming out story, or apology—just a fact. I am gay, married to a woman, and have three kids. Translation: I am a very tired human being who wishes she had more date nights with her spouse and fewer conversations with her kids about the proper way to wipe their bottoms. I am just like you. Sort of.
The Sperm Donor Who’s Met 17 of His Children - The Atlantic
L ouis used to cycle to the sperm bank, his deposit in a bag. He needed to make it in good time to preserve the contents of each specimen jar, which he placed in a warmed cabinet when he arrived. In the evenings, when men arrived after work, there would sometimes be social events at the sperm bank, with tea and cake. Other sperm banks — he was a regular donor at three — were more perfunctory, with small rooms for donations and the usual magazines. Like most of the donors, Louis preferred not to linger, but to pedal back to his modest flat in northern Holland and a life he felt was so ordinary that it almost blurred into the background.
When Tim Gullicksen began donating to a sperm bank in , he never expected to meet his biological children. Or envisioned the kids hiking, playing pranks, and competing viciously over silly games they invented together. But this July, Tim will—as has now become an annual tradition—rent that van, fill it with food from Costco, and take the kids out to Bass Lake for a week. Some have been coming to Bass Lake for a decade.
Posted June 15, Deciding to use a sperm donor is not always an easy choice, but for Heather it was further complicated by the fact she was also conceived using sperm from a stranger. For 18 years, she and her parents knew only that her biological father had green eyes and was university educated. Growing up as a child conceived through an anonymous sperm donor was hard, but harder still was the news she received as an adult that he did not want to meet her. While Heather, who did not want her surname disclosed, said her parents did the best they could to help her understand her origins from an early age, it was "not an easy ride".